Maintaining a healthy and thriving relationship that has longevity involves many principles and practices. While it’s difficult to distill everything into just ten rules, here are some important guidelines for building and sustaining a strong and loving relationship.
1. NEVER QUESTION THE INTENT OF YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER OR THE NATURE OF THE RELATIONSHIP ITSELF.
Always assume that the person with whom you’re in the relationship has good intentions. If you are committed to each other and are bound by a deep love for one another there is no reason to doubt your partner’s intent.
2. DON’T CORRECT YOUR SPOUSE.
This is one of the hardest relationship rules for those with a strong competitive nature. It doesn’t mean you allow your spouse to be wrong. It means that instead of arguing, you create a fun and effective pattern interrupt that you and your partner can use in order to change states easily.
3. DON’T GET STUCK IN A REPETITIOUS PATTERN.
Sometimes it can be easy to get stuck in a rut. We all have patterns as they’re a way for our brains to save decision-making energy and can even be beneficial. If things are getting stale, change your approach – your perception, actions, responsibility frame and more.
4. NEVER THREATEN THE RELATIONSHIP.
Any type of threat to the relationship no matter how subtle is very damaging. The more you threaten the relationship the more you dig a hole for the death of the relationship. On again, off again” partnerships or those where one partner consistently threatens a breakup are never healthy. These behaviors create an imbalance of power rather than create respect and equality.
5. COMMIT TO CONSTANT IMPROVEMENT
Constant self-improvement is the key to success in life and it is also the key to a successful relationship. If one partner puts effort into personal growth and the other doesn’t then this could spell the end of the relationship. Develop a growth mindset and never accept a relationship that is anything less than extraordinary.
6. APPRECIATE AND COMPLIMENT THE WONDERFUL, FANTASTIC AND UNIQUE ASPECTS OF YOUR PARTNER.
For a relationship to be truly satisfying it require polaritys, or different energies between partners. Masculine energies want to be appreciated. Feminine energies want to be understood. Making a point to compliment your partner every day fulfills both of those needs.
7. NEVER COMPARE YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO THAT OF OTHERS.
Comparing your relationship to others is a sure formula for disaster – and it’s hard to prevent. Social media may offer a false representation of what a great relationship and sometimes it’s hard not to compare. As long as you are happy with your relationship rules, no one else matters.
8. REMEMBER THAT ALL UPSETS WITH ANOTHER PERSON ARE RULES UPSETS.
Just like our patterns, we all bring expectations to a relationship about the way the other person needs to act or the way the relationship must be. Understand that your partner has different rules than you, but that doesn’t make their feelings less valid. Decide to value your relationship over your expectations.
9. REINFORCE YOUR SENSE OF CONNECTION THROUGH POSITIVE ANCHORS.
Positive anchors such as rituals of connection or annual traditions fulfil two of our deepest human needs; certainty and connection. They’ll bring you closer together, give you something to look forward to and create stability in your relationship.
10. DECIDE THAT IT’S MORE IMPORTANT TO BE IN LOVE THAN TO BE RIGHT.
The only person you can control is yourself. Embracing healthy relationship rules and learning how to resolve conflict ultimately comes down to your personal choices. Choosing your relationship over being right will always avoid an argument and lead to fulfillment. As they say, you can be right or you can be in a relationship.
Ready to unlock an extraordinary life by experiencing the type of love you’ve only dreamed of? As you and your partner learn to consistently practice the 10 cardinal relationship rules for couples, you will experience a transformation in your partnership. Instead of feeling unbalanced in your relationship, struggling to get your needs met and meet your partner’s needs, you’ll begin to notice that the relationship is meeting both of your needs, drawing you closer together into a rewarding partnership.
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